“I want it all, and I want it now”
A couple of new words describing our modern society have come to my
attention; “kidult” and “adultesent” with “peterpanners” thrown in for
These words have come into being to describe the attitude of today’s
young people, and no, we aren’t talking about children here or even
teenagers, but young adults aged 20 to 40 who have, rightly or
wrongly, turned their backs on the old values.
Things like, marriage, family, job security, saving, and home ownership,
they are more likely to embrace, reality TV, celebrity gossip, binge
drinking, the latest car, plasma screen TV and ipods.
In a large proportion of this group there is little concern for politics or
world events or anything that impinges on their instant gratification,
“We live in a different economic and cultural climate.” they say,
“We still value maturity and responsibility, those values are still being
expressed, but in different ways”.
Well they are certainly right about the "different ways" part of that
premise, a 2004 survey in
between the ages of 18 and 30 are “uncommitted” and nearly
two thirds of them are living with parents.
Now I’m not opposed to this per-se, but when the sole motivation
is so that the kidult will have fewer responsibilities, a built in
laundry service and more disposable income for the gratifications
already mentioned it starts to smell a little like laziness and
immaturity to me.
The generation of, “I want it all, and I want it now” doesn’t seem
to be laying down the right foundation so that this end can ever
Instead we are starting to hear things like this quote from a book
currently doing the rounds;
The debates about adulthood need to go deeper and consider what
makes an ethical adult in today’s world.
“Values are presumed to be earned through participating in the
conventional adult rituals.. you become loyal by sticking to a career,
marriage teaches you commitment, having children makes you
responsible.” the writer continues, “we need to acknowledge that
these kinds of values can be developed in other ways, through
different relationships and experiences.
It’s time to focus the adulthood debate on the bigger questions
about how we live today and recognize the many ways of being adult.”
Well I don’t know about you but that left me with an unpleasant
feeling at the pit of my stomach, if the opinions of this author are
in fact a popular concept it would seem that our world is in for
some radical changes that I, for one, don’t think are for the better.
Maybe my distrust for these views is because of my advancing years
and the reliance on the theory that these concepts have served us
well for a long time now and I'm not ready to see them thrown out
unless they are to be replaced with something better, or at the
very least replaced, not simply discarded.
I don't want to make money.
I just want to be wonderful.